sadder but wiser

sadder but wiser

Knowledgeable or experienced after having gone through something unpleasant or unfortunate. We came through the economic disaster sadder but wiser, hopefully better prepared for such disasters in the future. I left the dinner sadder but wiser, understanding just how entrenched her family's bigotry still is.
See also: but, sad, wiser
Farlex Dictionary of Idioms.

sadder but wiser

Cliché unhappy but knowledgeable [about someone or something--after an unpleasant event]. After the accident, I was sadder but wiser, and would never make the same mistake again. We left the meeting sadder but wiser, knowing that we could not ever come to an agreement with Becky's aunt.
See also: but, sad, wiser
McGraw-Hill Dictionary of American Idioms and Phrasal Verbs.

sadder but wiser

Unhappy but having learned from one's mistakes, as in Sadder but wiser, she's never going near poison ivy again. The pairing of these two adjectives was first recorded in Samuel Coleridge's The Rime of the Ancient Mariner (1798).
See also: but, sad, wiser
The American Heritage® Dictionary of Idioms by Christine Ammer.
See also:
  • write the book on
  • wrote the book on
  • wrote the book on (something)
  • no stranger to (something)
  • know what (one) is talking about
  • know what you're talking about
  • know a thing or two
  • in the know
  • be no stranger to (something)
  • be no/a stranger to something
References in periodicals archive
A second referendum on whether to leave the EU would give sadder but wiser voters in the UK that opportunity.
Sadder but wiser, our feisty four recreate the original couples, but then at the last minute--just before Mozart's final chord--the women trade places, and all four suddenly look much happier.
As a guide, some marriages are robust enough to continue albeit sadder but wiser. Others - like that between comedians Dawn French and Lenny Henry - succumb.
Sadder but wiser, the administration lately has been more cooperative with Congress and the courts.
It's simply human nature to make mistakes now and then and we usually go away from them sadder but wiser. In handloading there are two kinds of goofs--minor and catastrophic.
Events build up to a troubled family reunion, which culminates in arguments and recriminations, before everyone ends up sadder but wiser. It's a simple and well-worn premise, and there are really no new insights in Kobayashi's predictable treatment.
Closing the tragic case, Judge Richard Johnston said that the nation is now "sadder but wiser".
Sadder but wiser. The psychological literature on affect does not uniformly support the view that positive affect has beneficial consequences.