I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't

damned if I do and damned if I don't

Every possible action (or inaction) would result in a negative outcome or cause me trouble; there is no course of action that does not have a drawback. My boss will be mad if I miss the work event, and my husband will be disappointed if I skip my anniversary dinner. Yep, I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't!
See also: and, damned, if
Farlex Dictionary of Idioms.

I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.

Fig. There are problems if I do something and problems if I don't do it. I can't win. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. No matter whether I go or stay, I am in trouble. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.
See also: and, damned, if
McGraw-Hill Dictionary of American Idioms and Phrasal Verbs.
See also:
  • damned if I do, damned if I don't
  • damned if you do, damned if you don't
  • take action
  • while you are at it
  • when in doubt, do nothing
  • nothing for it
  • there's nothing (else) for it (but to do something)
  • there's nothing for it
  • there's only one thing for it
  • (something) is not going to (do something) itself