potentially offensive Of a man, possessing a number of stereotypically homosexual qualities seen as attractive by women, while still being unambiguously heterosexual. I still want a man to be manly, but just gay enough that he can have a conversation about his emotions.

With rash, unrestrained impulsiveness, enthusiasm, or zeal. Ever since my brother got that car for his birthday, he's been motoring around at night with gay abandon. The insurgents set upon the town and began firing their weapons with gay abandon.

Overtly or flamboyantly homosexual. Offensive when used pejoratively. I can't believe Sarah asked him out on a date—how can she not see that he's clearly as gay as pink ink? I've been gay as pink ink since I was a teenager, so it wasn't a surprise to my parents when I came out.

slang A gay person who is struggling in some area or areas of their life. Typically used as a humorous self-identifier. The term originated from a meme that references a 3x3 Dungeons and Dragons character alignment chart and allows one to identify as "gay," "bi," or "lesbian," and to categorize their ability as "distinguished," "functional," or "disaster." I just feel like everything in my life is falling apart right now. Textbook disaster gay. Oh, my sweet disaster gay. That guy is definitely hetero, do not hit on him.

Overtly or flamboyantly homosexual. Offensive when used pejoratively.