conspicuous by your absence

conspicuous by (one's)/it's absence

Especially noticeable because of being missing or absent (from something). You're the loudest one in the class, so of course you're conspicuous by your absence! The governor's economic stimulus plan was conspicuous by its absence during his speech this afternoon.
See also: absence, by, conspicuous
Farlex Dictionary of Idioms.

conspicuous by your absence

obviously not present in a place where you should be.
This phrase was coined by Lord John Russell in a speech made in 1859 . He acknowledged as his source for the idea a passage in Tacitus describing a procession of images at a funeral: the fact that those of Cassius and Brutus were absent attracted a great deal of attention.
See also: absence, by, conspicuous
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conˌspicuous by your ˈabsence

not present in a situation or place, when it is obvious that you should be there: When it came to cleaning up afterwards, Anne was conspicuous by her absence.
See also: absence, by, conspicuous
Farlex Partner Idioms Dictionary
See also:
  • conspicuous by (one's)/it's absence
  • conspicuous by absence
  • conspicuous by its absence
  • conspicuous by your/its absence
  • be conspicuous by (one's) absence
  • conspicuous
  • make a drama out of something
  • make mountains out of molehills
  • molehill
  • strain at a gnat
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