the dirty end of the stick

the dirty end of the stick

The worst, least pleasant, or most difficult aspect of something. Usually used after "get." You have to stay tough during business negotiations or else you may end up getting the dirty end of the stick. With three older brothers, I always get the dirty end of the stick when it comes to doing chores.
See also: dirty, end, of, stick
Farlex Dictionary of Idioms.

the dirty end of the stick

the difficult or unpleasant part of a task or situation. informal
2000 Sunday Times (Johannesburg) I still feel a bit sorry for Hugh, he always seems to get the dirty end of the stick.
See also: dirty, end, of, stick
Farlex Partner Idioms Dictionary
See also:
  • make (something) seem like a picnic
  • put the dampener on (something)
  • put the damper on (something)
  • a man without a smiling face must not open a shop
  • dampener
  • damper
  • put a dampener on (something)
  • put a damper on
  • put a damper on (something)
  • put a damper on something
References in periodicals archive
Can it really be that people who seemed to have been handed the dirty end of the stick by life will actually come to find happiness?
As the most rural and sparsely populated district we tend to get the dirty end of the stick when anything is decided in Caernarfon, the county town.
DO we make our own luck, or is it thrust upon a select few while others get the dirty end of the stick?
Quickfire Antrim goals before the interval from Ciaran Herron and captain Colm McGuckian put the Saffrons into a lead they would hold almost until the death.But Codd - who hit a huge 1-7 - kickstarted the revival late on and Jacob showed his mettle with a wonderful point in the eye of that late storm to help seal it.If Wexford got the rub of the green then Antrim got the dirty end of the stick. Twice referee Pat Horanintervened to turn the course of the game against Antrim in dubious circumstances.
A YOU do seem to have got the dirty end of the stick. All you can do is to keep telling the truth, but you're also entitled to a little righteous indignation.
"We have a lot of hope, but we are cautious because in the past we have always gotten the dirty end of the stick over matters of land use and resource benefits."
Mr Clarke said he appreciated that teachers feared that 'you are always going to be picking up the dirty end of the stick over anything that comes around the corner'.
Hollyoaks (C4):Matt signs up to do an errand for Scott while Craig gets the dirty end of the stick.