be tearing your hair out

be tearing (one's) hair out

To be extremely anxious, worried, frustrated, or stressed out about something. We've been tearing our hair out trying to figure out what's causing the server outages. The kids have been out of control all morning long—they've got me tearing my hair out!
See also: hair, out, tearing
Farlex Dictionary of Idioms.

be tearing your hair out

or

be pulling your hair out

If you are tearing your hair out or pulling your hair out, you are very angry, upset, or anxious about something. The nation is tearing its hair out over what to do with these child criminals. They must have been pulling their hair out by the time they reached home. Note: You can also say that someone is tearing their hair. The whole situation had him tearing his hair in frustration.
See also: hair, out, tearing
Collins COBUILD Idioms Dictionary, 3rd ed.
See also:
  • tear (one's) hair out
  • be tearing (one's) hair out
  • tear out (one's) hair
  • tear your hair out
  • tear your hair
  • tear (one's) hair
  • tear hair
  • tear one's hair
  • tear one's hair, to
  • tearing