if you can't beat 'em

if you can't beat 'em

If you can't defeat your opponent, then you might as well work alongside them or do what they do. A shortening of the phrase "If you can't beat 'em, join 'em." A: "I thought you said you'd never join social media." B: "Yeah, but everybody else has, so if you can't beat 'em."
See also: beat, if
Farlex Dictionary of Idioms.
See also:
  • you can run, but you can't hide
  • you can't run with the hare and hunt with the hounds
  • have (one's) bread buttered on both sides
  • have your bread buttered on both sides
  • can't do anything with
  • can't do anything with (someone or something)
  • can't have it both ways
  • you, etc. can't have it both ways
  • yellow dog
  • get (someone or something) out of (one's) mind
References in periodicals archive
And the resonant clang of a hammer's loud bang Makes me wince with the sound of each blow We decide to sit out in the garden awhile And smell the carnations and stocks But we sigh in despair as thick smoke fills the air With the smell of burned barbecued chops At the end of the day we can climb into bed And thankfully switch out the light But a party begun in a garden somewhere Fills the air with loud shrieks of delight Well, we have to give in for we really can't win And we've jobs that need doing ourselves If you can't beat 'em, join 'em - so we'll just mow the lawn Mend the fences and put up some shelves by the late Stella Blainey - sent in by Eric Robertson
If you can't beat 'em join 'em, says EMMA JOHNSON as she picks out some cool blue hues to wake up your New Year wardrobe
If you can't beat 'em join 'em, says EMMA JOHNSON as she picks out some cool blue hues to wake up your New Year wardrobe Jumbo lattice grey jumper PS35, pale blue double breasted crombie coat PS59, 4 way stretch leggings PS30, all Miss Selfridge, missselfridge.co.uk Blue textured jumper PS32, straight-leg jeans PS32, Cotton Traders, cottontraders.co.uk Two-tone jumper was PS69, now PS55.20, Amie joggers were PS49.50, now PS39.60, Hush, hush-uk.com ALL PRICES CORRECT AT THE TIME OF GOING TO PRINT Oversized roll-neck sweater PS39.99, skirt PS49.99, Zara, zara.com Blue ruffle-sleeve jumper, now PS10, JD Williams, jdwilliams.co.uk Cobalt blue coat, was PS59 now PS35, jersey roll neck PS10, riding pants PS25, patent heels PS25, all Dorothy Perkins, dorothyperkins.com
If you can't beat 'em join 'em, says EMMA JOHNSON as she picks out some cool blue hues to wake up your New Year wardrobe Two-tone jumper was PS69, now PS55.20, Amie joggers were PS49.50, now PS39.60, Hush, hush-uk.com ALL PRICES CORRECT TIME OF GOING TO PRINT Oversized roll-neck sweater PS39.99, skirt PS49.99, Zara, Blue textured jumper PS32, straight-leg jeans PS32, Cotton Traders, cottontraders.co.uk Jumbo lattice grey jumper PS35, pale blue double breasted crombie coat PS59, 4 way stretch leggings PS30, all Miss Selfridge, missselfridge.co.uk Cobalt blue coat, was PS59 now PS35, jersey roll neck PS10, riding pants PS25, patent heels PS25, all Dorothy Perkins, dorothyperkins.com Blue ruffle-sleeve jumper, now PS10, JD Williams, jdwilliams.co.uk
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If You Can't Beat 'em, Join 'em Jim Mosteller Amalia Publishing 6725 Kingery Highway, Willowbrook, IL 60527 9780979113703, $24.95
Maybe it's time that they coin their own adage: 'If you can't beat 'em, don't even TRY to join 'em'?!
The attitude of many CPAs toward Sarbanes-Oxley compliance sounds much like the old saw, "If you can't beat 'em, join 'em." Once they are through with the mountain of work involved with initial compliance, the benefits of improved decision making, more efficient processes and cross-departmental applications inherent in the Sarbanes-Oxley infrastructure might begin to show through for a broader range of U.S.
Home-school opponents have begun using the maxims "if you can't beat 'em, join 'em," and "what you fund, you control" to insinuate government control into homeschooling.
Now the President's Council on Physical Fitness and Sports, in the great tradition of "If you can't beat 'em, join 'em," has branched out beyond its basic incentive program by running MTV-style ads that attempt to ridicule teens into exercising.
If you can't beat 'em, join 'em, and that's just what I intend to do.